Evansville Vanderburgh Public Library

Finally out, letting go of living straight : a psychiatrist's own story, Loren A. Olson

eng

Includes bibliographical references and index

autobiography

illustrations

index present

non fiction

Finally out

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Loren A. Olson

letting go of living straight : a psychiatrist's own story

"Dr. Loren A. Olson has frequently been asked two questions: How could you not know that you were gay until the age of forty? Wasn't your marriage just a sham to protect yourself at your wife's expense? In Finally Out, Dr. Olson answers these questions by telling the inspiring story of his evolving sexuality, into which he intelligently weaves psychological concepts and gay history. This book is a powerful exploration of human sexuality, particularly the sexuality of mature men who, like Dr. Olson, lived a large part of their lives as straight men--sometimes long after becoming aware of their same-sex attractions.Readers will come to understand:- That there is no universal model for coming out- Why many older LGBTQ men came out late, do not come out at all, or come out to varying degrees in different environments- How stigma has created mental health problems for isolated and closeted men who have sex with men, particularly in geographical areas and cultures where there is little or no acceptance of homosexuality- How sexual function changes but perhaps even improves for older men- That aging creates opportunities that one has never had and may never have again, e.g., freedom from the tyranny of ambition- That some people consistently prefer an older sexual partner and this can lead to stable, intergenerational relationships- How same-sex sexual activity was considered prior to the Stonewall uprising in 1969 contrasted with the way it is perceived after Stonewall- How age, culture, geographical location, heterosexual marriage, and children impact a person's decision to come out- Why "conversion therapy" does not work and may be harmful- The difference between homophobia and homonaïveté- The archetypes of self-identified straight men who seek occasional or regular sex with other men- How to overcome the shame and guilt experienced by men who are sexually attracted to other men."--Publisher's description

I am not gay, but I might be a little bit queer -- It's just common sense -- God hates fags: in bondage to dogma -- Out from the shadows: you're not the man you thought you were -- Are you shooing at the wrong target? Dates and rehab for addiction to approval -- Ain't nobody's business: tricks of the trade -- How to have sex in a tree -- Hookups and not quite sex -- Middle crisis: Is it too late for me? -- Accidental sex: never pass up a hard-on -- The urgency of time: the unbucket list -- Outed at eighty: the infancy of old age